As I am writing this post, I feel incredibly lazy. In fact, I procrastinated on writing this!
As a writer, I like to think that my words help people. They can feel heard, inspired, and always walk away with something. It’s one of the main reasons I write.
That’s why I want to talk about mood. A lot of us feel drained, tired, and unmotivated. Why?
We’re in a pandemic! DUH.
“We’re so sick of doing a bunch of things that we think are supposed to be ‘productive’.”
Where is this laziness coming from?
We should be doing things, right? We should be applying for new jobs or internships. We should be studying more. We should workout more.
Do you see a pattern?
More, More, More.
These are all great habits and actions. The problem is that they’re all external.
Without knowing why you’re doing them, they won’t be satisfying.
You feel like a machine.
You can workout 6 times a week, study for four hours a day, and delete Netflix for a month, but still be unhappy.
We’re so sick of doing a bunch of things that we think are supposed to be “productive.”
We’re burnt out.
“Being lazy will allow you to feel more satisfied by doing less.”
Let’s be lazy then
My dad once told me that human beings are naturally lazy.
Turns out, he was right!
The definition of lazy means to be turn away activity or exertion.
What do human beings like to do?
They like to conserve energy!
We like to be efficient.
Most of us like to do as much as possible with as little effort.
A lot of us see this is as a problem.
“Lazy means you’re not hardworking.”
“Lazy means you won’t achieve anything.”
“Lazy means you’re worthless.”
We’ve been trained to think like this.
It is not our fate to be working all the time and have an addiction to fast food.
Being lazy has its purpose, especially during a global pandemic.
Laziness allows to relax and take a break.
We actually need to be lazy to have desire and motivation.
With extreme change, it’s expected to not feel as motivated or have that same mojo.
Our goals have changed. We have changed.
We’re questioning everything about ourselves and our world.
We have to proceed with caution.
Being lazy will allow you to feel more satisfied by doing less.
Wow, full circle!
“Reflect on the pandemic and how it has affected your life.”
Reflection is powerful
Let’s say 20 year old Gina feels extremely bored.
She is sick of studying, attending Zoom class, and not seeing her friends. She used to love being at university, but now it seems so draining.
She forces herself to apply to summer internship applications and drink green smoothies.
Eventually, she’s burnt out. She needs a break. She goes on a Netflix binge for 3 weeks.
The cycle repeats.
After regaining that energy, what if you took time to be lazy instead?
What if you accepted that’s ok to be lazy right now?
We need to be lazy to have the energy to think.
It’s hard with so many online distractions.
It takes some effort, but this real internal work.
Type on the laptop or go old fashioned with a pencil.
Reflect on yourself.
Reflect on the pandemic and how it has affected your life.
Reflect on where you are heading.
Reflect on where you want to be.
I remember when I first started reflecting after my first serious relationship.
I asked myself how can I improve, what habits can I change, and how can I be the person I want to be. I actively have changed and attribute a lot of my success today to those times.
Reflection is important. It makes us self aware.
By asking yourself these questions, you can figure out if the things you are doing are actually worth it.
Figure out what will make you feel better and how you can get there.
Remove the pressures.
Remember we’re focusing on the internal here.
“After taking these steps, it’s ok if you realize all you want to do is spend your days watching Netflix.”
Find your why (the most important one)
If you don’t read anything else, be sure to read this section.
We’ve all heard this phrase.
Do we understand it?
You’re probably used to hearing these reasons all around you.
“I workout because I want abs.”
Maybe, you hear more complex ones.
“I study three hours per day because I need good grades to get into med school.”
These are fine.
For the short term, at least.
After that rush of initial motivation dies out, you’re back at square one.
Your “why” should be about you.
Why do YOU want to do what you think you should be doing?
Why do YOU want to apply to jobs, study more, or eat healthier?
Your why should be tied to your values and the life you want for yourself.
How does this play out?
Let’s take Gina again.
She realizes that she hates green smoothies and Zoom zaps her energy. She can’t just skip class, but she can figure out why she goes.
This is not about mindset hacks and all that.
This is about digging deep and figuring out what is best for you.
By all means, this is not easy during a pandemic. Let alone, during normal times.
Gina realizes she wants to feel more energized throughout the day to feel more confident in herself.
She goes to class, but takes a few screen breaks. She stops drinking green smoothies and has her favorite vegetable salad instead.
With no guilt, she watches Netflix for a bit when she gets stressed.
Gina feels better now.
This is similar to reflection, and you should definitely be using your reflections to answer these questions.
Think of reflection as more of a guide to your feelings and why you feel the way you do.
Finding your why is about assessing your actions.
Think about what makes you happy and commit to those tasks.
Happiness takes effort.
We’re lazy, so focus on the actions that make you happy.
After taking these steps, it’s ok if you realize all you want to do is spend your days watching Netflix.
The key is in owning that and being happy with that action.
It should align with what you want for yourself.
Focus on a few actions that satisfy your “why” for doing them.
If you need to do something for your survival or living situation depends on it, that’s a whole different framework.
“It’s ok to spend your day not doing the things you think you ‘should’ be doing.”
Be Lazy and Trust
I’ll be honest. I’m 21. I don’t have all the answers.
However, I will say that I am experienced in overthinking. I am experienced in reflecting, adjusting, and trying.
All of the things I’m telling you are things I am trying to do too.
Life has changed a lot in the last year.
It’s ok to spend your day not doing the things you think you “should” be doing.